7 Ways to Improve Your OkCupid Profile
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However, there are a number of extreme outliers scattered throughout the eastern half of the US with scores that are way higher than their neighbors. Some are infamous party towns like Miami and New Orleans. The rest are all home to large military bases: With that in mind, I agree with the above advice about dialing back the irony -- and also, though I hate to suggest it, some of the quirkiness.
When you're advertising yourself to strangers, a little goes a long way. To put it another way, I adore the quirky and oddball folks among us, and you look like a fun guy with really interesting gifts and interests and a great sense of humor Currently your profile with the irony plus the snark about the MFA cost plus some of your photos comes down too heavily on the side of oddball, which sets off a few alarm bells for me that might make me hesitant were I on the market, and near you to message you.
Like most ladies, I like Quirk that is also capable of functioning normally, like say on that distant day when you meet my parents, or you have to accompany me to a wedding full of staid, Middle America type people. I'd advise you then to demonstrate your ability to do the latter, perhaps by adding a photo of you in a staid, Middle American wedding kind of setting. Or at least in a jacket with a nice shirt.
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Your profile is a great place to exhibit your ability to strike a balance between showing off your awesome weirdness and your more easygoing, blends-in side. Maybe work on balancing it out some. The drawing picture is really cool. The last 3 are good.
Cross-dressing, the detached head in Russia, the cop photo from a long time ago- not so much. Also, basically you are saying you are mainly shoe-less and jobless. I am very old and probably very conventional so that to me reads 'yikes'. Unfortunately as you get older things that were once kinda kooky can start to become red flags for others.
Again, I am totally not your target demographic, but I'm just giving you the 'hey that's what I thought about your profile' which is what you are asking for, right?
Just be a person. With normal pictures that show you as a person. I'm hoping that's not your cat's actual name. The picture is weird. Not dealbreakery weird, but weird.
I'd wonder if you walked barefoot outside and at the grocery store and things like that. Again, not a dealbreaker, but weird. Taken together with Magic the cat, I'd wonder if you had a little trouble with social norms. It doesn't tell me very much about the person. Truth be told, if I were single and looking and in the area, I'd return your message.
But I'd probably be on guard for further oddballness. On preview, artemisia puts it well: I like the quirky people in my life to be functional, and able to hang with the non-quirky ones.
I much prefer the drawing. Even some of the bad photos read as less a joke profile to me. I'd cut it too! And nthing that the primary profile pic isn't doing you any favors. To my eye, it's sort of oddly composed, and that meshes badly with all the visual art stuff you mention in your profile. The drawing, on the other hand, is wonderful. Whenever I see a profile listing just last names "I like the films of Zemeckis, Lucas and the early New Jersey work of Smith" it comes off to me as reaching hard for importance.
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And a major OK Cupid hazard for me has always been that person who meets up and just wants to have undergrad-style conversations about art instead of connecting as human beings. Kindness to animals can be a quick shortcut to making people like you.
But yeah, retune the FIV joke to make it seem more compassionate, unless you want to limit your results to partners who think the suffering of the weak is funny.
The potential to care about other people is often missing from OK Cupid profiles. I think part of it is how much OK Cupid encourages you to list all the ways you are fascinating. But if you can come off as able to do good stuff for others, that helps generate likability. Your profile suggests that you undertake a lot of potentially interesting actions. But it does not provide readers with a handle on why and what drives you.
According to one ancient philosophy, character is what you decide to do when confronted with difficult situations. Maybe give us a little of that.
When things get tough what likable actions do you undertake? Use a normal picture!
And you look so different in all of your photos that people aren't going to know who'll be showing up on their doorstep at the start of a date. You profile comes across as way too ironic and trying way too hard. I have no idea who you are from reading your profile, other than that you apparently like to present yourself as "quirky" and "different.
And, yeah, the FIV joke is in poor taste. Maybe I am too detail oriented Maybe draw a comic with your pets, you being the superhero or your cat being the superhero! But it might come across odd to older women that you are looking for 18 year olds. Also, I think you're cute, and your screen name is clever. If you messaged me, I definitely might message you back. However, my snap judgement of your profile is that I just don't feel like I know enough about you, which makes me think you might not have very much going on in your life.
If you told me on a first date that you don't really like to wear shoes, I might think it's kind of quirky and charming, but when it's a big element of your profile, it makes me wonder if that's the best thing you could think to say about yourself.
Also, all the quirkiness kind of makes me feel like I might not be cool enough for you I mean, I don't even know what pescatarian meanswhich is fine if you only want to meet women who aren't intimidated by that kind of thing.
If you're looking for a higher volume of responses though, I think the people advocating for a little more sincerity are right. Also, I don't know what you're sending out as first messages, but I recently joined Okcupid after a long absence and the kind of message a few guys have sent me have been completely awful and off-putting, made worse by the fact that I think these guys might have thought they were being clever or cute.
Be really careful with those. Saying something snide about my profile in a first message is way more of a turn-off for me than a bad picture. It's probably better that you fill in that info with real info, though.
Most people have pointed out the the main profile picture, which I would consider the big item. I'm going to deviate from others with a suggestion that may just be personal taste. Thompson" is and all about s counterculture. Same goes for memes or other things said out of context without explanation - I know exactly what "I pick things up then put them down", but there are people who might find strength training interesting and would never know you were into it because you hid the meaning behind a clever phrase you can do both - say strength training AND use that quote.
The obscure path leads to situations in which you read a whole profile and by the end realize you know very little about the person. Basically, I'm saying you're losing out on possible conversations and piquing others' interests if they don't know what you're talking about. Be yourself, just remember that some of the people you might be interested in won't share your exact same cultural space and might need a little more info to understand your more obscure references.
I know it's legal, but actively looking to hook up with an 18 year old at 27 seems creepy to me. Why not something like ? That said, good on you for putting yourself out there to be judged in the interest of self improvement. I'm sure there are plenty of users who wouldn't post there own profile but who are happy you did so they can also benefit from your feedback.r/okcupid Top Posts of All Time
The age range is a little large -- if you bring it to 21, it seems better at the low end, even if it's the default. The cat joke and the money comment are sort of off-putting.
You're obscure about your interests. It looks like, for instance, you expect people to recognise what "pick things up and put them down" means, or the last names in your books and comics section, and that it's sort of a quiz for prospective people.
The Friday night thing sounds like you won't ever be willing to make long-range plans or work around someone with a more standard schedule. I don't care how awesome your initial message or profile are if you look like a creep.
Have a preferably female friend look through lots of photos of you, and take their advice. Include more normal photos One clear "normal" ish looking picture in your first three pictures 2. It's like saying you don't like food cooked in a blue kitchen. You just need one more normal pic right away to balance out the joking. Seriously, I am LOLing my butt off here. If you're mostly making a life as an artist, I'd like to see more art. Why do your friends like you? Why did your past girlfriends like you?
What would you do for fun with a woman other than the obvious? I am usually not this much of a bitch. Your pictures are WTF and immature. Your profile is all over the place. There is no such thing as being "mostly" vegetarian. So you don't eat a lot of red meat or chicken. Ok, say that instead.
You drink a lot and use recreational drugs Well, you've already narrowed down your dating pool significantly. If that's what you want, fine, but just keep in mind the kind of person you'd like to attract and the message you are sending from your profile. The things I think are funny and endearing about your profile are cancelled out by the obvious and glaring differences in our lifestyles.
Your animals are the first thing you mention, but actually have very little to do with who you are as a person pet lovers may disagree but it's true.
And you don't have a regular job. I get no sense of either the thing you make most of your money from, or the thing you spend most of your free time doing. I find that helps me as much as knowing who the person is. While I say that, my main thought reading it was 'too weird for mass appeal'. At the same time, I don't recommend dialing it down, just reframing it to show how it expresses you rather than simply having an outline of someone's interests without a person inside. I sympathize 'cause I identify so much with what I see and read, to the point where I'd want to give you a list of my favorite comics and books and expect you to honestly know who I am, and if you don't, then clearly you just haven't really read those books properly.
But on the other hand, I'm personally aware that my attitude is not likely to bring me a fair amount of 'takers'. Also, I will agree that if I was surfing OKCupid for fun, I'd be put off by the photos and the Magic Johnson joke just confused me and some stuff about MFAs and doing new things well is just the sort of thing that only rings properly when you know someone and can hear their intonation.
Also, I was frustrated 'cause I don't know what your values are, what it is that matters to you in all these things you do. I don't need to feel I 'know' you on an intimate level to chat on a dating site, but I need a hook, a feeling that even if we like different comics, maybe we like them for some of the same reasons, or can talk about them fruitfully.
That's if your target demographic is raging geek girls. So in summation, geek girls are likely to need different types of info on your likes, while non-geek girls will be overwhelmed by the info you already have, but may be ok with a more thought-process based outline. A profile that screams that you don't take much of anything seriously — including filling out your profile — can be really off-putting. At best, your explanations seem distant and aloof, like you don't really want to commit to the idea of saying who you are and seeking what you want.
At worst, it could read like you are really insecure and don't know what you want. Being sincere, honest and a little bit forthcoming about who you are and what you want doesn't negate you being wild, lighthearted and laid-back. You're already on there anyway; the jig is up. Why don't you watch Breaking Bad alone, btw? Perhaps add a " Dude, it's not even your cat!
This is a good rule for life. You think you are 'unique' - you are not. Neither is anyone else. Remember that and live by it and you'll attract more attention. I've been on OkCupid a lot and I go on a lot of dates so I've read a shit ton of profiles. People think they stand out by being 'edgy'. I can assure you that on the contrary the profiles that stand out, particularly in NYC, glaringly, are the ones that forsake the 'I'm so fucking cool' bullshit and actually, as the The Kinks once sang Nobody wants to spend their life with a pose.
I had a feeling that being the average, everyday person that I am that I would never be cool enough for them. I was looking for someone who was above all things, kind. Obviously, this is just me and I'm sure there are lots of people who would disagree but I put a high value on simple sincerity and honesty about who and what you are without all the obfuscation. Otherwise, I don't think your profile is all that bad and it seems like you're a nice person.
But yeah, change the picture. You have much better pictures of you in there. I like the bar one. Anything where you are smiling! Unless I am a self-destructive type, I would be frightened that you were one of those guys who warns you ahead of time that he is a vampire, and then, if I am silly enough to disregard the red flag, proves it.
And I'm a pretty critical person. I think the picture is funny and eye-catching, and you have enough normal photos to balance it out. The cat joke should be tossed, but again, I expected much worse from the whole profile based on everyone's reactions. I guess the only thing is that you sound more undergrad-y or early twenties rather than I don't know much about Denton, TX, but maybe you think about moving to a bigger city to meet a wider variety of people? It's like those just happened to be the only seven pictures you have of yourself.
This would make me wonder: If he does have decent pictures, why put up all these non-flattering photos and ones where you can't even see his face? And I know that I saw an OKTrends article that suggests the best photo for men is a close up looking away from the camera I think it's something like that, anyway but for me personally I am not interested in dudes who aren't smiling in some or most of their pictures.
The brooding, moody, can't-be-bothered-to-smile shit is so off-putting. I want to date someone who I think I can have fun with, not someone whose moody crap I am going to constantly be subjected to. Show that you like your life and are capable of having fun. Also for someone that claims to be an artist I'd expect more in terms of photo taking, photo- choosing and cropping skills.
So anyway, the whole "I'm never going to have a real job" thing would be the 1 deterrent for me. Women aren't looking for men with jobs because they are gold diggers. They are looking for men with jobs because THEY have jobs and want to match up with an equal partner, not to be someone's mom.
If you really don't have a plan for your life and how you're going to support yourself, this is going to be a barrier to dating at this age, period. Not an OKC-specific thing. And the bitterness is not good. So I just sucked it up, got over it and went to a cheaper school instead.
I'd have no patience whatsoever for someone who played the whole "oh I wanted to go to school but it's so expensive. If you want to go to school, get one or get over it and do something else. This attitude smacks of blaming others or 'the system' for your shortcomings and that is not mature or attractive or something I'd want in a boyfriend.
It's like a big red flag that says "Hey!
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When things go wrong in our relationship I'm going to blame you or some other external factor and not take personal responsibility for my part in it! I'm sure we could be friends in real life. Because when it comes to dating, the standards are higher. If you're just looking to hook up then you might be okay but I think any girl would be wary of getting into an actual relationship with someone who didn't have a mature outlook on their life or at least some sort of goal in mind.
Wilson beat me to it, but unfortunately you're going to get passed over a lot for being on the short side. It's pretty unfair, but it is what it is. It just depends who's reading it, I guess, but my eating habits fall in the same category so it didn't strike me as weird to read that word. Get some better ones or at least more conventionaland then see what happens.
The text is good and anyone who is put off by it shouldn't be contacting you anyway. If you messaged me, I'd message back. I do agree that there's just a tiny bit more edginess than necessary, and a little sincerity might balance that out, but you honestly look pretty funny and chill, so I wouldn't worry about it too much. It looks like you'd attract the right kind of person for you.
If you had 3 or 4 really good and flattering photos, followed by this one, I would laugh my ass off and it would endear you to me. I don't think it's a good lead photo, however. Your profile photo is supposed to be funny and ironic, right? I find it creepy and random. Ever thought of smiling and looking into the camera? Yeah it might be dorky, but right now you seem really scary and unapproachable. Not that it's a bad thing, but it might be something you wait until the second date to share.
I'd also try to share a bit of what type of people you want to meet on there somewhere.