What do ISTJs want from INFJs? | INFJ Forum
What do you think about relationships between INFJs and ISTJs? What are the challenges when two people of this type are in a relationship?. I've seen a lot of stuff on INFJ and ISTJ relationships and how they have I started dating a INFJ about 3 years ago, so compromising has been a . to him that I can have difficulties separating how I feel about something from. The INFJ and ISTJ relationship is one that is relatively rare, but I've had issues and annoyances for the sake of their long-term happiness.
While not true for all Sensors, Sensors dress themselves and groom themselves relatively well; this is something that Intuitives will appreciate and admire. Struggles May find it a challenge to have a common topic for discussion; Sensors enjoy talking about everyday happenings while Intuitive enjoys ideas, trends and theories. These differences in interest may mean the couple may find little or no chemistry.
Sensors are more past and present focused while Intuitives tend to be more future oriented; This means that Sensors will take references from past experiences and present facts to make a decision, while Intuitives are more likely to take into account future possibilities when doing so.
Sensors may find Intuitives' lack of interest in everyday living and managing household tasks to be frustrating; they don't understand why Intuitives are always 'in their heads', pondering about the deep things of life while they are the ones taking care of the duties of the household.
Thinking-Feeling Joys Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler's compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self. Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense.
[ISTJ] My realtionship with an INFJ
The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions. Struggles Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler.
Thinkers may not understand the Feeler's desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict. Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler's behavior and deem them complicated.
The Case for an INFJ and ISTJ Romance
Feelers also tend to show affection much more naturally and sometimes they may feel their Thinking counterparts don't show enough of it; they may feel unfulfilled in the relationship. Judging-Judging Joys Because both value organization, they are likely to have a neat and tidy household with clear rules and standards, something which both parties will prefer. They are likely also to plan their schedules with each other, with little or no issue with unnecessary last minute changes.
They will also appreciate their partner's ability to keep up with the demands of everyday living and stay on top. They will likely be strong together with budgeting, there will be little or no issues with planning out finances together.
Struggles Even though both parties may have standards in the household, they may have very different standards. Because both tend to be opinionated, their arguments and quarrels may be more intense.
This would just spiral until we finally learned what what we were missing from each other. I have learned to to be open to his intuition, which although risky at times, has come in handy when I didn't have enough facts to make a decision.
I also have learned to reassure him emotionally which otherwise is completely foreign to me! This is important to INFJs. I have learned to rely on his judgment completely with any matter dealing with emotion and "drama" as I can't understand it. REAL men come in all personalities!
What do ISTJs want from INFJs?
He has learned to not be defensive when I'm presenting a thought, that I'm not actually attacking him like he may feel. He has also learned to separate emotion from logic when discussing a point, so that we can stay on topic. We also both agree to thoroughly discuss each issue with each other before taking action.
Communication is always key! Once we learned to be open to each other, each day got easier with leaps and bounds and then we just stopped fighting all together! We still disagree, but it has become a discussion, not a fight, and a resolution is reached within minutes.
Now we are in a very fruitful and fulfilling relationship and are eagerly planning our marriage.
We have worked extremely hard in making our relationship work and we are elated in knowing that there is a solution! Don't get us wrong, we know that things wont always be easy, but now we posses the communications skills and mutual trust and understanding to get through anything.
We also have common life goals like raising our kids the same way and constantly agreeing on each issue. We both love to travel, we both love family, and we both want the same things out of life. Above all else, I will always believe that this is the most important factor in determining spending your life with someone.Why INFJ Personalities SUCK at RELATIONSHIPS 💋😭💋
We both respect each other, so while we may not understand one another all the time, we have faith that we can both be competent to make decisions.
I have a theory that we are both so far on opposite sides of the spectrum, we needed to find an opposite to bring us back to earth. All of the women in my family are ISTJs and they have all found a "feeling" husband. My mom refers to it as the yin and yang relationship.