She found a good guy, but he’s moving away
Don't make a false comparison. If you did not have to move away at some future date, your relationship could still end tragically and suddenly in. This might be kinda long, so here is the ultimate question: Would you consider starting a relationship with someone who was potentially moving. Q. I've been dating a guy, Rob, since February. We met on OKCupid. We're both 31, had serious relationships that took up a chunk of our 20s (four years for him.
This is an incredibly personal choice and whatever you do will be difficult, so please be sure to pay attention to yourself and to take care of yourself. Best of luck to you. I don't know but I personally wouldn't go through some of my bad breakups for less than I don't know, 10 years of awesome relationship.
YMMV posted by the young rope-rider at 7: Look at it this way: Your time together is more precious now because you know there's an end date and no time to wait for enjoying the moment-to-moment experience of being together. So I kind of suspect you are both opening up more than usual because you will leave soon. That is kind of a situational thing and does not necessarily suggest this relationship has awesomeness potential.
You won't have the chance to find out how you would have behaved if the relationship had started under other circumstances.
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I personally wouldn't make a huge emotional commitment. I would probably say something like "You really mean a lot to me and I would like to keep in touch after I leave. But I think it is unrealistic to frame it as a committed, monogamous relationship. I think we should be free to date other people. It would also leave the door open for pursuing a serious relationship if distance alone fails to kill what the two of you have. I know, you're "falling" for this person, but you're also choosing to let that happen by spending time with them and allowing yourself to become attached.
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Like you, I need a lot of physical closeness. We tried to make it work long distance, but a combination of issues made that impossible. Hindsight being what it is, we should have ended it. But we were optimistic and in love. I think you should pay attention to what you know about yourself. Don't close the door, by any means. But maybe letting it slowly swing shut before you leave will be the healthiest option for both of you.
You didn't say in your question, but: It's different for me for a number of reasons-- mainly that I assumed a sort of mentor-type relationship with this beautiful young man-- but I do get where you're coming from. I decided early on that I was going to roll around in this brief happiness, and accept that the joy of physical intimacy would be short-lived.
We still talk every other day, and I feel immensely connected, but I almost think I wouldn't have been able to commit myself as hard as I did if there hadn't been a built in expiration date? I guess what I'm saying is this: Treasure this interlude in your life, and treat it as a bit of serendipity mostly outside of your previously laid plans. I slept with him too soon, he told me he loved me after a week. It was a mess.
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Right after that ended I met this new guy unexpectedly. He and I hit it off, have been seeing each other times per week for 6 weeks now. Have NOT slept together, taking it slow.
We both really like each other and have established this. Last night we got into a deep conversation where he admitted that right before he met me he had applied for a company transfer to their Florida location we're in NY.
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He told me he didn't know what to do because he didn't expect this to happen between us. He should know if he got the transfer by this Friday, and if he did he would be moving in October. He was planning on waiting until after he found out to tell me because he didn't want to have to bring it up if it wasn't going to happen, but I guess it was just eating away at him keeping it in.
Obviously I'm going to wait and see if he got his transfer, but honestly I don't see why he wouldn't. He's a great employee and has been with them for a few years now.